I can't lie. I haven't actually had the time to traverse the blogosphere...so I haven't been there 'in spirit' either... and woah dudes... thanks for punishing me for it! My traffic is still solid thanks to my extra-blogicular activities but my fellow blogger traffic has taken a nosedive.
Okay. I get it, I get it! Quid pro quo. As you sow, so shall you get comments... I understand. I know I'm a rotten blogger. And you can say it all you want, that "it's okay, do what you want, blog how you want"... truth is, that's a lie. Blogging is defined by a strict set of rules and it's just another form of a club. Members must abide by the rules. And Blogging Rule #2 is Thou Shalt Reciprocate and Participate.
I'm a bit Groucho Marxist when it comes to rules, cliques and clubs. Sometimes to my detriment. I don't want to rebel against the status quo particularly if the quorum is made up of people I like and respect. But it happens. I know I sound selfish and in some ways, quelle horreur!...lazy but I assure you, selfish and lazy are not words one can attribute to me.
Anyway, I probably won't change my thoughts on this but I will, as soon as I can, leave comments on blogs I regularly read. I haven't been able to blog because I'm terrifically busy and I state that not as an excuse nor to make me exempt and not out of any delusional self-notion that I'm 'special' (because I KNOW, we are all busy. And special.) but because I am genuinely busy. I'm not complaining! I've added photographer to my CV and that takes a great amount of my time.
Also... I had promised in my last post to discuss the whole botox/cosmetic surgery thing... now's not the time but I will say this... I am too vain to ever get cosmetic surgery. I will explain. In another post.
...and yes I know that my diatribe reeks of hypocrisy because regular readers know I have a love/hate relationship with receiving comments. I truly believe that the comment system has created a monster. Reciprocal Obligation. Like we don't have enough. I loathe the idea that someone comments on my blog out of obligation. Or with a sense of expectation. I don't read a book or watch a movie with the expectation that the author and director are going to thank me for doing so.
I so very much appreciate the bloggers who do take the time to leave comments regardless of my lack of reciprocity and no doubt this post will piss many fellow bloggers off, I will have to live with that... I know you're thinking "who the hell do you think you are? Why should you expect to receive anything if you don't give?" Well I think I'm me and I'm good at what I do... and it's simple... I don't give expecting to receive. So naturally I believe in that being reciprocal.