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Friday, June 24, 2011

Friend Friday: Back to the Fuschia

So... this is what I wore last night, meeting friends for drinks then attending a fundraising event for a (burlesque themed) play.  BUT... what is so momentous is that I'm actually going to participate in a Blogger Networking activity!  Friend Friday!

This is a backdated post, written on a Saturday (AEST), dated to Friday about an outfit worn on Thursday.  Back to the future... the reason I am participating in this is because I read Veshoevius' post and as always she floors me with her complex yet simple to comprehend, eloquent, lyrical answers.  And her banging 'rock chick meets a Baroness' style. I was inspired.  Plus... she mentioned me as someone who inspires her to wear hot pink!   So I thought it most appropriate.

Here goes.

1.      "Since you began blogging do you notice a change in the types of things you gravitate towards while shopping?"

No, not at all!  I still shop the way I have always done... from anywhere and everywhere and the brighter the better!  What I don't usually divulge is where I shop nor where I find my pieces.   I also don't want to be defined nor validated by the labels and prices of my clothing choices. 
Clothing is an expression artform for me and as such I like to keep an interpretative air about it, for the viewers perspective.  Which sounds like a whole lot of pretentious bulls**t but it's true! 

If anything... I tend to back away from certain items or trends.  But this question does seem a bit weird because I don't shop to blog.  That would make a mindless consumer junkie! 
Admittedly... if I do find a most amazing piece, I look forward to photographing it...which just makes me a vain-ass showpony rather than a mindless consumer junkie.

2.      "Do you find, as a fashion blogger, that you dress differently from your family and friends? Do they comment on that?"

Yes!  I do (dress differently) and they do comment!  But I don't dress differently because I'm a 'fashion blogger'! 

My blog exists because of the way I dress, not the other way around. 


My husband, children, family, girl/guy/gay friends, colleagues, customers love the way I dress!  They look forward to seeing what I will be wearing next and I do dress differently for each 'group'... not as a way to fit the tribe. HELL. No. I never dress to fit in, I never have, even as a child, even being the 'odd one out'... I relished that position.  Still do.  As a teenager I was well known for my crazy sense of dress and yes, sometimes I would get judged for it...still do... but I really didn't and don't care. 

I am always 'me'... but the different versions of me.  Read this post for more about this.

I do get funny looks and I do get snide comments, particularly from other women and although that used to bother me because I could never imagine doing that to someone else... now I just smirk back at them.  Yes smirk. 

My friends are damn stylish but I am by far the most out-there one of the lot.  What I really really love though is that my girlfriends all dress up out of their comfort zones when with me.  I have been known to march them back in to their dressing rooms to change if I don't like what they're wearing because I deem it unworthy of their fabulous selves!  God bless them they still love me!  I swear I'm not bossy!  I just like my loved ones to shine.
...and with me around no one ever feels overdressed!!  So they go for it!

My husband loves the way I dress and 'gets' the look 90% of the time!  My children... my daughter says she is heavily influenced by my style (but she has her own stamp) and my boys think something's wrong if I'm wearing "normal" clothes.  The boys have always liked that I don't dress as the other mums do. 
When they were younger, going to pick them up from school, waiting at the school gates... in a sea of lycra, I would be in a fuschia caftan cinched at the waist with a metal belt, orange & blue platfom wedges and a denim floppy hat.  They always found me in that crowd...

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3.      What’s the weirdest fashion that you secretly like, even if you aren’t bold enough to wear it?

Hmmm... okay, well... secretly I really love the classic Katherine Hepburn look but I am not understated enough to wear it!  Even though she wasn't understated! 
This is such a classic, elegant look but even though I absolutely love it, it would be boring on me because my personality does not suit this look.  

AND.... I would love to just wear a white t-shirt with jeans, add boots and leave it at that but I can't!  Just can't!  I get 'itchy'.  I feel underdressed...which leads to a whole slew of questions... as to why I feel underdressed.  eg. Do I use the way I dress as a mask?  

Yes I do.  But.. Not to hide me.  Not in the way you may think.   Sometimes, I use the way I dress to be invisible.  Hmmm... I will address this in another post.

I also really like simple dresses.  On others.  I like that I can appreciate all kinds of style without needing to like it because it's my style.  I see that in others.  Sometimes I think that when someone admires someone elses style what they're really saying is "you are like me, bravo". 

I never want to be that person.  That person doesn't grow.

4.      Looking at current trends – what would you like to try but need to build up the courage to do?

Again... not courage... I would need to tone down to wear current trends.  I'm not really aware of what the current trends are anyway.  I know leopard print is in but that's because it never goes out!  I wear a lot of animal print anyway. 

Oooh capes are everywhere here.  But in greys, neutrals and boringgggs.  I have many vintage capes that get oohed and ahhed and "oh I could never wear that"-ed. 

"colour-blocking" is a 'trend' that baffles me... colour is a way of life for me, not a trend.  And the way Australian style bloggers "colour-block" amuses me.  Actually... mainstream style Australian fashion bloggers bore me.  There.  I said it. 

I do not find a grey bulky cardigan worn over tan pants and a white t-shirt, accompanied by the ubiquitous Jeffrey Campbell 'Litas', all brought together by a gigantic clutch in a 'bright' colour like peach... an original statement in style.  Although dammit, I do love  JC shoes.

5.      Toot someone’s horn – what fashion blogger out there inspires you with her bold fashion choices? 

Ahhhh I love and admire many and as arrogant as this may sound, I don't look to others for inspiration (I look for admiration)... it's Desiree that rocks my socks off!  She is fearless! 

...and although many consider her a spoiled rich brat, I do very much love Jane Aldridge's style.  Very similar to to my style when I was her age but that's not why I like it! 

I am astounded at the money she seems to spend but each to their own...  but... I find those that look fabulous without needing to sell their organs, more stylish than those that spend big bucks on designer pieces. 

That's why celebrities on the red carpet, etc, bore me.  They're not stylish.  They're walking billboards.

One thing I don't share and should really is that many times I am dressed for hmmm... less than AUD25.  Top to toe.

I am astounded at the prices the young girls I work with pay for their boring, hipster tribe, must wear a designer label, pieces.  They pay through the nose for the privilege of being recognized as someone with more dollars than sense.
Some of these girls will work for clothes and not eat for days.  Another issue for another post.

And I'm done.  Sorry, this is a rushed post as per usual!  I'm off to photograph a most fabulous event!


Thank you for your answers to my previous post's question!  Like U2, I still haven't found what I'm looking for... when it comes to answering my own question.  Why do I blog?  Why do I blog?
I really don't know.  Most of you are now raising your eyebrow/s, rolling your eye (which would be a cool party trick but also kinda creepy so just roll both okay?), deep sighing all over the place and thinking "Dusk!  For heaven's sake!  Get. Over. It."
..but... it is important for me to know why I do the things I do.  Otherwise it's mindless. 


Veshoevius said...

Ah you look amazing! Thank you for the fuschia inspiration! What an amazing colour that blouse is! Loved reading your answers to these - and could relate to much of it! I don't think you use dress to hide or as a mask but rather as a way of adorning your wonderful self.

Leia said...

I know we all tell you this time and time again, but you really are amazing! My mum was bold like you and stood out among the crowd when I was at school, and I *hated* it... I hated the comments she used to get, and I "dressed down" because I didn't want to be like her. For several years I wore jeans and t-shirts and no make-up and unkempt hair because I didn't want people to think I was concerned with my looks more than my brains.
Luckily, I got over that, and decided that I don't care what people think - I'm going to dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable and happy and confident and if anyone dares question it... they'll get a mouthful! ;)

I do still have difficulty embracing color in the fabulous way that you do, but I think, little by little I'm getting over that. And I totally agree with you that many mainstream bloggers are just plain boring! I really don't care for the kind of look you described... it's just so 'blah.' And Jane Aldridge is one of my favorites although I do think I preferred her blog when she was younger and each post was not like a full-fledged magazine photoshoot... and my jaw gapes open when I think about how much she spends on her clothes/shoes. In all honesty it's shocking that a mother would allow such a young child (I believe she began blogging in her mid-teens and already had a substantial designer shoe collection) such a huge budget!

Anyway, I digress. And I loved reading this. :)


Tashrin said...

I almost cried when I saw that tan pant, gray sweater, big clutch, white ts and litas bore someone else too. Never really got what was original about it, seemed like everyone was wearing varied versions of the same uniform if you know what I mean. That's why I love you so much dusk, for understanding what is original and what is not and for being so god damn honest!!!


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Polka Princess said...

Dusk dearrrrrrr!!!!! Your words amaze & interest me almost as much as your style does!!! You're a pro at both! :)

And did I ever say before how much Fuschia seems to be just made for you????

Hats off for being the way you are! You rock in every single way!! :))

La Dama said...

You are inpiracion amor, I am now looking for more fushcia colors too.
I love your feisty ways yet elegantly classy.

- Tessa said...

This sentence REALLY resounded with me “I like that I can appreciate all kinds of style without needing to like it because it's my style.” I often find inspiration in the way others dress, or maybe a single item they are wearing, or a silhouette they make…gosh so many more possibilities. I look, and look, and look at blogs and then when it’s time for me to get dressed (late,r not right after the looking) it just happens very organically, even though I know my dressing has been influenced by all of the images I have been exposed to. This seems a bit off topic, but this post inspired me – thank you. (Hmm, two comments in one day – must be that I am on vacation. I do think I would comment much more often if I didn’t work. I often want to comment but am pressed by life to just move on.) Oh, and I think you blog simply because you do. You are such a natural; it seems a part of you.