I love receiving compliments because it tells me a lot - A LOT - about the person giving the compliment.
I am grateful and humbled and delighted (not astounded) by all the gracious and delightful com[pli]ments I receive on my blog. "Not astounded" because I am, by nature, a compliment-giver. In the physical world I am vocal in my appreciation of the way others (family, friends, colleagues, strangers) are and/or look and/or do, think, feel, etc. There is no ulterior motive, it is not said for gain, it is said to give. Freely.
So if I'm like that, why would I be surprised that others are too? I don't hold back. I do call a spade a marvelous tool designed to dig its perfect streamlined surface to effectively toil the earth. I don't just say "nice handle".
Just to make my viewpoint clear. I don't compliment the object. I compliment the subject.
Let me also make it clear that I am not saying that every, or any, comment has to be a gushing geyser of compliments. People are vastly different in how we show appreciation. eg. three people watching/listening to a symphony... one will be crying... one will be beaming... and one will be silent and still. I assure you. All 3 are rapt. One no less than the other. Likewise compliments. I am NOT talking about compliments that are simple and straightforward but they are still about the subject.
I'm talking about... "nice shoes" ["fun pics" "nice blog, follow mine"] Etc.
...Gee thanks. Those shoes would still be nice on a donkey but obviously there is nothing about me [eg] that is worthy. And "fun pics"??? Really?? I'm so glad I'm a fairground attraction for you. And don't start me on that last example... Then why comment??? I'd be happier with a "hmmm... I don't like those shoes but I do like that skirt on you",etc, etc.
When I do leave a comment, it is most often if not always a compliment about the person and the person's choices.. not about the choices alone.
It amuses me to a point when reading null compliments . They're as well meaning as an airconditioner on a bike. Have received a few of them lately. I'm sure you're thinking "well, if you dislike them, why publish them?" Hell. Why not? Energy was expended typing, I appreciate and respect that. And it amuses me. To a point.
After that, it's pointless. Makes me wonder why bother expending the energy. I would rather no comments than an empty compliment. That goes both ways. For me that is a fait accompli...
MORE PICS AFTER THE JUMP
vintage 'safari' dress * sequinned wedges * gold 'wayfarers' * vintage belt * bangles * attitude