So... who do you dress for?
This was a question posed by Checks and Spots a few days ago. Although not a new question, it's eternally an interesting question. I answered -as I always do- with an essay. Somedays my opinions forget I have a life... anyyywayyy...
It's not an easy question to answer (well, not for me) because it depends on many factors. Definitely, trend concious females dress for other females. Women notice each others detail and know what trends are 'in'.
I'm generalising but even though we say we dress for ourselves -and yes this IS true- I believe most style concious women dress for other women.
Unless you're Ice T's wife then Lawd I have no idea. But then I did specify style.
Absolutely though, women dress for men as well (thankfully not like Ice-T's wife!) This is when we 'get our sexy on'!!! (I'm not a sexy dresser per se -sexy is an attitude not a garment- but when I'm going out at night with my husband, I tend to (v)amp it up more than usual!).
Men generally like the total package. They don't quite care about the whats and the whys, they're about the who...but surprisingly, the majority of [heterosexual] men actually do pick up their women's style sensibilities!
eg. My husband and sons 'get' me. Even if they don't always understand exactly what the hell kind of party my wardrobe is having on my body. After all our years together, they accept and appreciate why [I think] this tartan baker-boy cap goes perfectly with the Franco-stripe top, striped heart necklace and red-trimmed leopard print shoes. And do not ask me to describe my pants. They defy all description.
I have to be honest...I do dress to be noticed! The question is... by whom? And I truly can't answer that. I don't know. eg. Today? I dressed for the United Nations! Had Flamenco this morning, discussed Hindi movies this evening, studied Mandarin this afternoon and dressed Franco-Scot in between.
What I do know is that although I am always 'me', when it's purposeful, I dress for my different 'tribes' - girlfriends, guy friends, gay friends! By this I mean that each 'tribe' gets a different 'version' of me. Vintage, girlie, warrior, rockstar or diva, etc but always 'out there'.
....and this all also depends on situation, location and whether it's day or night, work or play! See? When you break it down... it's not easy to answer.
Hell, I can't even explain what my style is other than its mood-dependent. BUT my fabulous Tanvi has been able to explain my (and others) style and I am chuffed about it!!
What I do know is that I NEVER ever dress to fit in. My childhood friends can attest to this! This is not an intentional thing. I do try to just throw on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt (which by the way is a very sexy look) and just leave it at that but... I just can't!! It goes against the bias of my being...
I dress comfortably, nothing I wear is high maintenance, but I don't compromise my code for conformity. I am very happy, comfortable, exultant even being the only one in a ballgown in a sea of jeanerics...
So...can you answer this question? Who do you dress for?.